Sexting With A Girl – A Must Know For Guys

Ever been in a situation where you really want to start sexting with a girl you are chatting with but you don’t know how to start? Probably plenty of guys can relate to this. The thing is , you want to let her know that you have sexual feelings for her or just spice up the conversations you have but you don’t want to scare her off.
So when you don’t know how to do this you can basically do things: Either you never do it because you are scared, or you dive right into it with the risk of her not wanting to engage, or even worse, damaging the existing relationship as it is.
We do not want both of these situations so here are some sexting ideas on how to go about it for those that don’t know.

How you start sexting with a girl: Set the right tone.

Bluntly typing out your sexual thoughts and phrases might be a major turn off for a girl, especially if it comes from out of nowhere. So, it is important for you to set the right tone first. A great way to steer the conversation into a sexual one is by deliberately misinterpreting what she is saying to you. A way to do that is first start adopting the feeling that the girl is chasing you and that she is the one making sexual suggestions. This will put you in the right mind state to respond catchy and give you the confidence to enter your suggestions in the conversation. You can then take whatever she says and turn it into something sexual ,but in a playful way. An example could be:
She: “Hey , did you hear that there has fallen 15 cm of rain in only 2 nights in Bihar?”
You: “Mhhh, I’ve heard that 15 cm can be quite fulfilling for you ladies.”
Now ok, this specific subject may not be the right one as with floodings comes a lot of drama, but it’s just the principal I’m trying to show here. If she recognizes the humor in your sexual scented remarks she might laugh and call you a naughty little boy or something. This of course opens the door for you to increase your sex related remarks when the situation provides the opportunity.
Then, after establishing the sexual tension you may bring it to the next level and go full throttle on it.

What if she doesn’t engage in your sexting?

So you might have sent her a titillating message and she doesn’t respond. Or she responds but bypasses the sexual suggestion you made. No big deal right. She didn’t respond negatively neither. Maybe she didn’t quite understand your little joke and doesn’t want to ask you what you meant by it. Or maybe she just isn’t used to you saying stuff like that and frowns when reading and thinks : hhmm.. what’s he up to. Or she could even just not realize that you making a sexually suggestive joke. In any case, it shouldn’t matter. More opportunities will come and you can throw out the next one later. Just be careful that you don’t overdo it and start sexting when the situation does not lend itself for it. Do not force it. It is critical that it comes natural. If you force it and implement it in moments where it is not suitable she will feel it and it will be a turn off for her. So be patient and wait for the next opportunity to arise. After a few more she will definitely know what’s up. If she keeps on ignoring your suggestions, you may conclude that she just either doesn’t like it, or she is too shy to engage sexting with you.

What if she responds negatively to your sexting messages?

If you chat with quite a few girls and you insert your sexting into the conversations you will always encounter someone who is just not into it. And she may let you know too. First, you should know that it’s a numbers game. As is with approaching women in general. If your success ratio with approaching women is 1: 10 and you want to successfully approach 10 women then you should approach 100 of them. It’s as simple as that. And remember, every 9 women approached unsuccessfully will teach you something to help you better your approaching skills. Well, the same goes with sexting. When a girl responds negatively don’t get offended, shocked or shut down. Just apologize in a playful way and tell her that she just pulled that out of you since that’s how she makes you feel. Just steer the conversation into another direction and chat on. After some time, you may try it again. Maybe a bit more subtle this time. If you fear that she won’t like it again, you may even disarm her by saying something like “ oops I’m sorry, it slipped out again. See what you make me do? “ You can do that even before she reacts to your suggestive remark. You will then take away her motive to be angry with you and she might even think it’s a little funny. Fact remains that most women like to be complimented and chased. Even the ones that don’t show it. Sometimes you just got to be more subtle about it. Or let them get used to it.
In any case, sexting is a great way to spice up a conversation and find out if a girl is into you. So by all means, implement it if you want to take it to the next step with a girl. Really, you have nothing to lose. If you don’t succeed it will only be as bad as you make it to be. It’s just part of the game.